This is my first Toolz Thoughts’ of 2014, so I can still say Happy New Year beautiful people! We made it to 2014- all thanks to God! First off, I’d like to say a big thank you to everyone that reads Toolz’ Thoughts. Writing is something I find great comfort in, but I haven’t always been confident about. Your comments, tweets, RTs are so encouraging and I thank each and every one of you for that.
One of the main reasons I love doing
Toolz’ Thoughts is because it promotes discussion, which I think we need
more of – especially in this country. I genuinely enjoy reading and
learning from (most of) the comments and once again thank you to
everyone that contributes.
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*and end of thank you speech*
I stumbled across this book: ‘The Confident Woman’ by Joyce Meyer in my sister’s library and so far it has been an awesome read.
There’s a particular paragraph that really resonated with me. I’m trying
to be a better business-woman, so this bit of wisdom had perfect
timing. Joyce wrote: Confident people do not concentrate on their
weaknesses; they develop and maximize their strengths… … The world is
not hungry for mediocrity’
There are certain skills that on a scale
of 1 to 10, we might be at a ’2′. You could work at being better at
this skill day and night; dedicate a huge percentage of your time to it.
With the blood, sweat, and tears you put into being better at the
skill, you could end up being a ‘5’. However, while you have been
putting all that effort into eradicating a weakness, you have probably
neglected the opportunity to perfect a skill that you are naturally
gifted at. Essentially you may have missed the opportunity to turn a ‘6’
into a ‘9’.
Joyce follows up with a story about a pastor she interviewed and when she asked about his weaknesses the pastor said: ‘I don’t concentrate on them. I am sure I have some, but I can’t tell you because I just don’t focus on them’.
Joyce follows up with a story about a pastor she interviewed and when she asked about his weaknesses the pastor said: ‘I don’t concentrate on them. I am sure I have some, but I can’t tell you because I just don’t focus on them’.
I can’t say I agree with ignoring your
weaknesses, but I definitely think it may be more effective to limit the
amount of time/effort that is put into correcting the weakness.
Developing/perfecting your strengths and limiting the focus on your
weaknesses may not be the easiest thing to do, but it seems to be a
necessary principle for success.
I believe that everyone has a natural
gift from God, it might take us a while to realize them or we may have
other things that distract us and prevent us from discovering them.
Sometimes we might even focus too much on what we aren’t good at and
forget to develop/ perfect our talents.
For example, Diane Warren is one of the
most successful and influential women in music. She is often described
as ‘the most important songwriter in the world’ because of the number of
hits she has penned. These include: ‘Because You Loved Me’ which was a
tribute to her father, and famously performed by Celine Dion. She also
wrote ‘I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing’ performed by Aerosmith, ‘How Do I
Live’ performed by LeAnn Rimes and ‘Un-break My Heart’ performed by Toni
Braxton just to name a few. She has also written for Whitney Houston,
Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez and lots more.
She probably started out wanting to be
an artist, maybe she suffered from bad stage fright or she wasn’t a
great performer, nevertheless today she is very successful (and very
very rich).
Imagine if performing on stage had been
one of Diane’s weaknesses and she spent so much time working on
improving her stage performance and inevitably neglected her songwriting
skills – would she be as successful as she is today? If she had managed
to get her performance skills from a ‘3’ to a ‘5’ would she have the
stack of awards she has now? In a world where you have amazing stage
performers who are probably 8s or 9s? Probably not.
Another example, Richard Branson the
head of the Virgin Group suffers from dyslexia which caused him to leave
school at 16. He could have let this weakness defeat him, but he found a
way to work around it. Richard would get his staff to read out
presentations to him to understand them better.
I could go on and on, but what I learnt
from ‘The Confident Woman’ is that it is important to identify your
‘selling point’. Figure out what your God-given talent is and strive to
develop and improve it. Everyone has a weakness that could distract from
perfecting that talent…if you let it. Why spend so much time bringing a
skill from poor to average? You could invest that energy into taking a
skill from good to excellent!
I’m not saying that giving up on
correcting your weaknesses is the way to go, but being conscious of and
limiting the amount of time and effort you spend on, in my opinion is a
good idea.
Coming up with ideas is one of my
strengths, however, one of my weaknesses is being organised enough to
execute these ideas. The main reason I’m a bit of a scatterbrain is
because I’m thinking about so many things at once. My friends often joke
that I have the attention span of a fruit-fly. I have tried to be a bit
more organised and meticulous. While I have improved a little, it did
take a massive effort. I figured it would be wise to get a project
manager to handle some of my big projects – someone who is naturally
meticulous, organised and not forgetful- unlike me.
So in the words of D’Prince, ‘What’s your selling point?’ And most importantly, are you doing your best to capitalize on it?
ToolzO is an award-winning on-air personality who
currently presents ‘The Midday Show with Toolz’ on the Beat 99.9FM and
the Juice for Ndani TV. You can find out more about Toolz by visiting
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