Ahhh, the mid-twenties. You’ve left some of the ways of your youth
behind and maybe you are starting to feel like adulthood is here to
stay. It can be just as exciting as it is daunting, but everyone’s path
is different and that is something that none of us should take lightly.
There’s several things that we learn along the way in life, but
there’s certain lessons that should definitely be learned before those
30s come marching in.
Here are seven lessons every woman should be learning at this stage of life:
1. “Everyone that you fight is not your enemy and everyone who helps you is not your friend.”
Mike Tyson said this and we know he may be seen as someone
problematic to be taking moral advice from, but we can’t disregard the
truth in this. We need to surround ourselves now more than ever with
people who may expose us to the honest, but sometimes ugly truths about
ourselves. And we also need to be cautious of those who only fill us
with honey-induced perspectives.
2. Bills first, luxuries second.
By your mid-twenties, you should definitely have an understanding of
the kind of financial situation you’re in. And you should be committed
to doing better on all fronts. You should be on your way to figuring out
how to save money, pay off debts, invest, and above all else, take care
of your bills. These things ought to come before all other “wants” we
may desire. You will need help in order to figure these things out, so
don’t be afraid to ask those who know. None of us are perfect when it
comes to managing money, but many of us can do a lot better.
3. If you don’t do the dishes, they don’t get done.
Accept the things that you cannot change, the chores, the boring
to-dos of life that must be done and make your life a lot easier by
doing them on time. Or you’ll find yourself looking at dirty sinks
often.
4. Your dreams have expiration dates.
One of the truths of life is some of the dreams of our youth become
unattainable. You can take this as reason to mourn your childhood or you
can take it as a reason to be empowered in your adulthood because you
are still capable of so much. You know that time is of the essence. Get
to work!
5. A relationship won’t solve all your problems.
By your mid-twenties, people are coupling off more and whether you
find yourself coupled-off or single (and looking), it is easy to believe
that a relationship is going to solve all the places in your life you
might feel inadequate. But that’s not the case. It’s not fair to put
that burden on someone else. You have to learn to be comfortable in your
own skin because that kind of love is something only you can give
yourself.
6. Your sense of humor is everything.
This is a time of “adjusting” to a lot of things and because of that,
it might feel like you’re failing often and losing more than you’re
winning. One of the best remedies for passing through life, but
especially during these years is your sense of humor. Your sense of
humor can turn a mountain into a molehill, it can let insignificant
things roll off your back as they should and it can do wonders for
dealing with the sometimes difficult world we live in. Laugh often!
7. Life doesn’t need to be perfect or turn out the way you planned it for it to be good.
Long before social media, humans were comparing themselves to each
other through the naked eye and old wives tales. Now that perfectly
calculated lives are put on display, it is easy to believe in someone’s
fiction and compare it to your reality. Despite all that, by your
mid-twenties, chances are your life hasn’t turned out exactly the
way you planned. But with enough perspective, maybe that’s not such a
bad thing. Here’s a secret, you’re doing so much better than you think.
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